What happens when hearts of mothers and daughters are Mended? We rebuild, restore and repair. Blythe Daniel & Helen McIntosh authored Mended to show “you don’t have to repeat the patterns that have been set before you.” Helen says, “One of the most important things Blythe and I wanted to share from what we’ve seen and experienced is this: how to mend relationships as you identify and then make new generational patterns.”
The mother/daughter duo bring their experiences in the field of counseling and in the publishing industry together to create a work of restoration. They share their mistakes and pain, and together forge a new path for others to learn life-giving skills.
Mended is a hands-on manual for nurturing and cultivating relationships, and initiating conversations toward healing. Even when there is no interest from the other party for reconciliation, the authors assert the need for forgiveness. They talk about the poison of unforgiveness and the toxins harbored. When the offender doesn’t seek to be forgiven, the call to release that debt is all the more important.
Blythe & Helen say the mother/daughter relationship is even more tenuous, because women pick up on every nuance and tone. We come with expectations that create stress on the relationship. Fear, controlling behaviors and unhealthy fixation all bring a different layer to interactions. But, they affirm, there is beauty when we partner together in the hard. Helen says, “People don’t mature when there’s not difficulty. In seeing what I experienced with my mom, it gave me the desire not only to change but to make a new way for my own family.”
I am giving away a copy of Mended to one reader in the continental United States. Mended is packed with practical suggestions for conversation starters and respecting boundaries. Leave a comment on my blog (at the top of this post, under the title) and tell me ways you foster conversation in your family. You will be entered into the drawing to be held on Monday evening, April 15. Share on social media to get an extra entry in the drawing. Be sure to let me know where you shared. I can’t wait to hear your tips!
Sally
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When I need to discuss something with the family, I tell them we need to sit down and talk. This conveys the seriousness of what I need to discuss. I open the conversation with what’s on my mind and ask the others to share their feelings on the topic. I’ve found this a great way to get everyone focused. It also gives everyone a chance to share their feelings and develop a better understanding of the issue. Note: This has worked great with my guys. The girls … more resistant. Sharing this post on Facebook! Looks like a great book.
Great tips, Leann. I like how everyone gets a chance to weigh in on the topic!
Leann! You’re the winner of this book. I pray it will encourage you immensely!
Thank you! I hope to learn some helpful tips.